Feature illustration by ericalm and Mad Men Yourself
Monogamy is often a fragile fruit, easily bruised. It hangs on the thinnest twigs with brittle stems that easily snap. We try our best to play by the rules and fall in line with socidty’s norms. I still attempt to believe in the idea of marriage and monogamous relations. In all reality such an idea is almost impossible for beings as unpredictable and impulsive as humankind. Too often I’ve witnessed promises that all fall short. Let me ask you a question. How many parents and newlyweds have actually carried on a successful happy relationship? My grandparents’ generation seems to be the last to have a successful marriage. Even if the relationships do remain together, we find many untold indiscretions. Not enough fingers to count how many wives and husbands I know who have cheated on each other. We now have shows dedicated to cheating, such as everyone’s favorite program Cheaters.
I myself have personally seen how a marriage can become an epic failure. The unhappiness that befell my own parents was one worthy of The War of the Roses. Maybe our more innate instincts come into play. After all, it is incredibly arrogant to believe that we are that far removed from our animal brethren. Very few animals in the animal kingdom actually mate for life; some of the better-known animals are penguins, wolves, and eagles. However, more intelligent animals such as chimps, dolphins, and elephants don’t mate for life. What does this say about those of us who chose the married or single life? Biologically we are designed to spread our genetic material to ensure our traits live on for generations. Nevertheless the institution of marriage seems to be falling apart at the seams. While the gay community fights to get married many of us are desperately trying to avoid it. Many are destroying their marriage as well, with the occasional extramarital act.
Quite honestly my knowledge of adultery runs very deep. I must confess that I’ve been involved in affairs with married women. Perhaps it’s the rush of taking something that is not mine that drives me to do such things. Like the rush thieves get, before they pocket small items off the shelf from a store. I’ve never proclaimed myself to be a good guy. Sometimes doing what is considered evil makes you feel like nobody can step all over you. The idea of no longer being a victim of wrongdoing, and instead, doing the wrongdoing puts the power in your hands. Perhaps it’s wrong to take advantage of the fragile state people are in when they’ve dealt with heartbreaking relationships. It takes two to tango though. My sin cuts just as deep as the others’. I find solace in my honesty. It reminds me that no matter how messy things get between the sheets, she has that ring. That ring should remind her of the awful act she’s committing. It reminds me that she doesn’t care. Leave it on, embrace being bad. If it doesn’t remind her of the home she’s wrecking, then I shouldn’t care either. Let your ID control your decisions. Perhaps marriage is really all just a joke. Politicians and political pundits constantly talk of the sanctity of marriage. All the while behind the curtain they’re banging secretaries, men, or prostitutes, while their wives sit at home. Adultery is America’s new pastime that fuels the scripts for prime time. I’m sure I’m not the only one. So many others out there do the same as me everyday. I’m just willing to admit it.
some people are cheaters before they got married and will remain that way after, there are ALWAYS signs..like keeping your phone on lock down, needing to go out with out your partner, keeping your social networks private, private e-mails..im sorry but if your not aloud in someones e-mail what makes you think you will be aloud in there life? ya ya I know trust..but if you love that person you share everything with them…even your passwords. So if your not ready for that, then your not ready to be open to someone. Hiding things is the first sign of no im not ready to be open with you. And as for being honest about being with married women, you should have went and been honest with their husbands. I woul never have medded around with some one who was taken. It shows they dont car about anyone but themselves, and I do believe in Karma
Christian marriage csenouling, I believe, has greater potential as an active ingredient in the healing process than any other type of therapy. Why? Because marriage between a man and woman is God’s plan so it only stands to reason that the repair procedures for an unhealthy marriage could be found in His word.My wife and I went through Christian marriage csenouling provided a trained, licensed, minister of the faith who was exceptionally gifted in using the Word of God to help couples in the reconciliation process. These are important credentials in choosing a counselor. What makes Christian marriage csenouling effective is the willingness of the couple to truly uncover, forgive, and die-to-self. It has to be understood that none of these things are within our human ability to accomplish alone. We need the help of the Holy Spirit to facilitate the type of radical change that must take place in one’s heart, deep down inside, in order for real change to take place. You’ll know it is happening when your focus is less on what your mate is doing than what you are doing in and with your relationship with God.Fifteen years later, my wife and I are stronger than ever. Has the road been free of bumps? No. But I have heard it said that if the mountain were as smooth as glass, you wouldn’t be able to climb it. We are still living in and by what we learned in Christian marriage csenouling. Our marriage is not about determination and resolve to make it work; its about the freedom to love one another and let the other be who they are with full faith and confidence that what holds us together is not our resolve, but trust and assurance in Jesus Christ that He is able to sustain us through any storm that might come our way.
Shut up Hasan.